I’m fascinated with astrology but I don’t follow it or take it too seriously. I came across this article by someone named Natalia Vela entitled “This Is Why You’re Afraid Of Love, Based On Your Zodiac Sign”. Her section on Virgo (I am a Virgo.) is spot on! She wrote: (highlights mine)
Virgo, you only let people see what you want them to see. You live inside self-constructed protective walls and are skilled at keeping your self-perceived faults hidden. There’s this inability you struggle with to feel worthy and beautiful. This inferiority complex stems from your overly critical and analytical nature. Yes, you’re hard on other people, but the person you’re hardest on is yourself. You’re well too aware of your own flaws and shortcomings.
Your striving for perfectionism and not living up to your own standards disables you from realizing just how worthy of love you are. So, you embark on a pattern of attracting the emotionally unavailable, the hot messes, the fixer-uppers, and lost ones, because they feel like a safe bet. You’re so afraid of someone who actually deserves you because you will constantly fear that you don’t deserve them.
You have an inherent fear of love because of what the possibility of a true connection might mean. The idea of being open and exposed terrifies you. Not only are you afraid that someone might discover that you have a soft and vulnerable heart, but you’re afraid that they’re going to see those things you don’t like about yourself and that they won’t like them either. You place such hard expectations on yourself that you’re afraid you won’t meet those of a potential partner. Here is another part of life where you are letting your analytical abilities dominate your feelings.
Maybe you’ve come to discover the dream you weren’t even aware you had – being uncovered by someone. You’re so terrified of intimacy, but deep down you crave it like you crave nothing else. Perhaps you got your heart broken allowing someone to do just that and then ended up blindsided, not feeling loved or accepted. Now you’re walking around carrying a constant fear of betrayal and unwittingly pushing away possible matches.
You’re continually wavering between extreme paranoia and excessive trust. You need someone you can trust but you’re afraid of falling for someone who will be more important to you than you are to them – yet another consequence of that inferiority complex.