My Victory Group leader asked us to take this simple quiz to understand what our primary love language is. Victory Group leaders in our church are those who facilitate bible study sessions and fellowship activities within groups of approximately 3-7 people. They also serve as mentors, accountability partners, etc.
Love language is the way a person communicates and understands love. It is that something that when others do, you interpret it as an expression of love or concern for you. In the same way, when you do those things, it shows how much you love someone. Knowing this helps in connecting better with others and forming meaningful relationships.
This is what I got.
Oh, so apparently, I’m an Acts of Service communicator. The description says:
“Acts of Service
Can helping with homework really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an ‘Acts of Service’ person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear: ‘Let me do that for you.’ Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. When others serve you out of love (and not obligation), you feel truly valued and loved. “
That makes sense. Indeed, I feel deeply moved when others go out of their way to help me out or make me feel comfortable. This also explains why I enjoy putting in effort in creating different things for Yuto like promo videos, gifs, etc. I express my love through doing something for the person I love.
I then got a tie for Physical Touch and Quality Time.
Physical touch is special to me. It’s exclusive. I don’t casually touch people or allow people to touch me. Even a pat on the shoulder or handshake is personal to me. In the same way, I think I expect my future partner to respect the ‘sanctity’ of a touch. Meaning, I will never date someone who is touchy with other people. I can’t imagine dating someone who casually rests his arms on someone else’s shoulders, waist or hand, or someone who casually hugs or kisses other people even as a greeting or whatnot. I have nothing against them. I’m just not into that.
Quality time pertains to giving or receiving full undivided attention. It is being really there and focusing on the person to make him/her feel truly special and loved. When someone talks to me, I appreciate it if that person doesn’t look at his/her phone or any other thing. Similarly, I do the same if I care about the person I’m with. Maybe it’s not that I intentionally need to focus on the person but rather, my mind is already full of that person so there’s no such thing as a distraction that can take my mind away from him/her. This is why it’s so hard for me to take my mind off Yuto. That line from the song “I can’t take my eyes off you” or the saying “I can’t see anyone else but you” is on point. It may be hard to believe that there is someone who is like this in this day and age, but I am such a person. I also expect my future partner to see only me. Oh, so this is why when ONF performs, my eyes follow whatever Yuto is doing. I express my love in giving full, undivided attention.
Yes, I know I’m quite intense. That’s why I’m patiently waiting for the person God has prepared for me who can take on this intensity. I hope I can meet someone who speaks the same love languages.